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Published by Simon & Schuster


The 10 Second Rule book is full of all kinds of stories of ordinary men and women who are living by The Rule and how it has shaped and transformed their lives. In it I share practical ideas for discerning God’s will, recognizing his voice, and studying Scripture so you can gain greater confidence in knowing what Jesus would do if he encountered the challenges of living your life in the 21st century.


Living by The Rule is how we train ourselves to be godly men and women. It’s a call to rediscover the revolutionary power of the simple gospel message as Jesus taught it, the early church lived it, and before religious Christianity tamed it!

  • Bill Hybels
    The 10 Second Rule… “Rarely does a book jolt me into immediate action. The 10 Second Rule did just that. After laying the book down I kneeled down and recommitted myself to “doing the next thing Jesus asks me to do.” This book will wreak all kinds of good havoc in all who read it.” Bill Hybels Senior Pastor of Willow Creek Community Church Chairman of the Board of the Willow Creek Association
  • John Ortberg
    “With unblinking transparency, Clare De Graaf says…what most of us secretly know about ourselves, which often keeps us from living the life God blesses. Living by the Rule is the way forward! 10 seconds can change your life.” John Ortberg Pastor, Menlo Park Presbyterian Church, Menlo Park, CA Author, The Me I Want to Be
  • Joni Eareckson Tada
    “We are Jesus’ sheep and we follow His voice, right? It sounds easy, but in our frenetic, fast-paced culture, other voices clamor constantly for our attention. Clare De Graaf, in his handy, excellent little resource, helps turn down the noise so we can listen, reallylisten to the Savior’s direction… and follow! I highly recommend this small book filled with big impact!” Joni Eareckson Tada Founder/CEO Joni and Friends International Disability Center
  • Bob Buford
    “I’ve known Clare De Graaf for more than 20 years now. He is a great example of the transition from success (CEO of an industry leading company) to significance (25 years of mentoring men). The 10 Second Rule is a simple yet profound practice that could change your whole point of view on life. It works.” Bob Buford Founder, Leadership Network Author, Halftime, Finishing Well and My Never Ending Blog (
  • Joe Stowell
    “Life is full of opportunities to do good things… the things Jesus prompts us to do. Unfortunately, His promptings can quickly vanish in the fast pace of life. My friend Clare De Graaf has given us an easy-to-grasp and memorable formula for building a life that consistently puts the will and wisdom of Jesus into action. This book is a game-changer!” Joe Stowell President, Cornerstone University, Grand Rapids, Michigan
  • Chip Ingram
    “This book is catalytic! If you long for something brief, simple, motivational, biblically sound and easy to understand – to move you from good intentions to transformational living, read this book. I loved it and highly recommend it.” Chip Ingram President and Teaching Pastor, Living on the Edge Author, The Genius of Generosity
  • David Green
    “I believe you will enjoy and be impacted by Clare’s “The 10 Second Rule” book. I hope not to miss as many Jesus moments in the future.” David Green Founder & C.E.O., Hobby Lobby Stores
  • Jennifer Tendero
    “This author has been my guide and counsel for more than forty years, so I can testify that most of what he says about himself is true, with the following exceptions: he claims to be just a normal guy, when in fact he is probably the most extraordinary person I know. Furthermore, he confesses the sin of pride, but in fact I know him to be obedient to the Holy Spirit even when that obedience might humiliate him. This book is tangible evidence that the man who wrote the 10 Second Rule practices it himself, for it is only by Clare’s obedience and God’s provision that you are holding this book in your hand. May every reader be as blessed by this book as I have been by the God who conceived it and the man who penned it.” (Dad, of course I don’t expect this to be published, I wrote it because I felt an impression to do so. I am more proud of you than you’ll ever, ever know.) Jennifer Tendero Stockbridge Boiler Room Ministry
  • John Guest
    “The 10 Second Rule is a brilliant concept and takes the Lordship of Christ in day-to-day living from principle to practice. I have known and worked with Clare De Graaf and can verify that descriptions of how the Lord has used him are authentic. He’s the real thing!” John Guest Evangelist, Pastor Emeritus, Christ Church at Grove Farm, Sewickley, PA
  • Edward Dobson
    “I’ve known Clare for over twenty years. He’s a passionate and devoted Jesus follower. This book is simple yet profound and anyone who is interested in obeying Jesus will benefit.” Edward Dobson Pastor Emeritus of Calvary Church, Grand Rapids, Michigan
  • Betty Huizenga
    Ephesians 2:10 tells us, “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do the work that He has prepared in advance for us to do.” In his book, The 10 Second Rule, Clare encourages us to become so familiar with the voice of the Spirit of God, so in tune with His call, that we hasten to listen and obey. This has been Clare’s lifestyle for many years as he mentors other men and sees many of them grow in Christ.” Betty Huizenga Founder, Apples of Gold Ministries
  • Jeff Manion
    “The 10 Second Rule encourages a steady faithfulness. This is not a book about instantaneous results but a reminder that our character is forged by daily obedience in the relatively small things. Clare has served as a faithful, one-on-one mentor, and now – through his book – his instincts and insights will be greatly multiplied.” Jeff Manion Senior Teaching Pastor of Ada Bible Church Author of “The Land Between”
  • Jim Samra
    “I love The 10 Second Rule! Clare not only lives this principle in his own life, he has done a great job of communicating what it is all about in this honest, compelling and easy-to-read book. My hope and prayer is that many Christians will read this book and begin putting the 10-Second Rule into practice.” Jim Samra Senior Pastor of Calvary Church, Grand Rapids, Michigan
  • Todd Peterson
    “I’ve always believed life is about choices. In America we are arguably confronted with more choices than anywhere else in the world. A great challenge in life for all of us is discerning the wisest thing to do in any given moment. My experience has been on those occasions in life I have immediately known what God wanted me to do but sometimes didn’t obey Him, it got more difficult with each passing second to ultimately do what He wanted me to do. I believe applying Clare’s idea of “The 10 Second Rule”will serve to enable each of us to more consistently end up doing “the next thing we are reasonably certain Jesus wants us to do”. Todd Peterson NFL Placekicker, 1993-2005 Chairman of the Board of Directors: The Seed Company/Pro Athletes Outreach
  • John & Sarita Holzmann
    “Clare writes with a fresh honesty that is challenging us to think anew about what God wants us to do when confronted with certain opportunities and temptations. Read the book through. We expect you, too, will find yourself yearning to participate in an adventure you might otherwise never have dreamed about.” John & Sarita Holzmann Co-Founders, Sonlight Curriculum, Ltd.
  • Roy Peterson
    “This book can be life changing for those with the courage to take a step of faith. After reading The 10 Second Rule on vacation, Rita and I arrived at the airport for our flight home, and there was a woman with four little ones, trying to juggle a baby and get snacks for the other three. The nudge in my heart was to offer her a hand, which I have regrettably not always paid attention to… (10 Seconds). To my surprise, she immediately accepted, sending me off to her table with pretzels and crackers, and thanked me warmly, but… An hour later in the terminal she spotted Rita and me near our gate and gave me the biggest and warmest thank you again for helping her. Such a simple step… May the Lord get the glory.” Roy Peterson President/CEO, The Seed Company And former President of Wycliffe Bible Translators
  • Dick DeVos
    “I have known Clare for over 40 years, and have been an accountability partner of his for the last 15. Clare’s heart for God and for people is undeniable. The life he lives and perspective he shares has challenged and changed me. This book will challenge and change the way you engage with the world, I promise!” Dick DeVos Former president of Amway Author of the bestselling book, Rediscovering American Values

If you’ve been trying to live by The Rule, even failing, please share your story with us.

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David George said...

Just finished a four week class on Biblical finances at Grace Bible Church, Moore, South Carolina and incorporated the powerful reminders in this book! Thank-you Clare!

Clare said...

David, you were one of “The Rule”s” earliest champions. Thank you!








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