A few months ago, a Christian man sat in my office angry and sad because his wife just told him she was divorcing him. “And my kids don’t respect me either,” he added, implying that his wife had turned the kids against him. “Why is God letting her do this to me?” I’m not sure why I end up with so many guys with bad marriages sitting in my office, decade after decade. I don’t even pretend to be a marriage counselor. But, there’s a common theme that runs through the majority of

I’ve sat with men and women, months after the death of a child, spouse or parent and have been asked “Will I ever find closure?” My honest answer is, “Probably not, and I’m not sure you truly want closure.” Closure works well in some areas, like the closing of a real estate transaction. But the term closure does not apply well to the human heart. It might not be possible, or even desirable, to permanently close the heart on a deep relationship ended by death. Are you sure yo

I had a friend of a friend ask this question of him recently. He said, "My wife and I grew up in the traditional church. But when we began having children, that just didn't seem to work anymore. So my wife and I began our own family church, where we can teach our own children, worship together as a family and where we can grow together spiritually. It's working for us." So, is a church made up of only one family, really a church? I don't believe it is. However, I love it that

Over the years, I've met so many people who have walked away from God or become angry with him because "he took my mother (or dad) from me. Why would a good God, a loving God do that?" So a few years ago I decided to prepare our grandchildren for the day of my death. Each of them, roughly 15 years old or over have gotten "the talk." They've now heard straight from me in this life, what death means for true Christians. Here's the gist of what I've told them. Someday you're goi