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I spend half my life in coffee shops having honest conversations about how following Jesus works in real life. So, let’s learn together, grab a cup and join the conversation.
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Loving an “Unlovable” Spouse or Other Family Members
I no longer love my husband. I’m not looking to get out of this marriage, but he’s selfish, insensitive to my needs and feelings and a...
Clare DeGraaf
May 26, 20135 min read
Honoring a Parent for Whom You Have Little Respect
I have a close friend whose father was both distant and hard on him. The son could never please his father and apparently neither could...
Clare DeGraaf
May 19, 20133 min read
Can I observe communion with my family or Christian friends?
In last week’s blog, I encouraged every serious follower of Jesus, especially parents and grandparents, to begin the practice of briefly...
Clare DeGraaf
May 12, 20134 min read
Writing Jesus’ Speeches
A bright young Christian just left my office after asking, “How do I prepare myself to be a life-long follower of Jesus?” He’s been...
Clare DeGraaf
May 5, 20134 min read
How did we get the Bible?
On April 28, 2013, I blogged on the dangers of “red letter Christianity”. By that, I mean those who choose to live by Jesus’ actual...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 30, 20136 min read
Red Letter Christians
Last week’s blog was on the new super-virtues. If you’re a parent, grandparent or mentor, there’s a second alarming trend coming your way...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 28, 20134 min read
The New Super-Virtues
I’ve been spending lots of time recently with college and post-college age young adults. Most of them are good kids, from great Christian...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 21, 20134 min read
Life Organizes Itself Around the Heart
I had a great discussion with one of our grandchildren a few weeks ago, while on vacation. The question came up of why Christians would...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 14, 20133 min read
Men and Fear
Last week I met with two very successful, Christian men, both workaholics and made this statement to test their reaction; Most Christian...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 7, 20134 min read
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