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I spend half my life in coffee shops having honest conversations about how following Jesus works in real life. So, let’s learn together, grab a cup and join the conversation.
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The Lies We Tell Ourselves, and Why We So Desperately Want to Believe Them
We all tell ourselves lies, even Christians. It’s not that we consciously play some mental game to talk ourselves into believing a lie....
Clare DeGraaf
May 30, 20163 min read
Is Cohabitation a Sin?
I spend a good deal of my time spiritually mentoring 20-30 year old men, often single. And I’m still shocked when they freely disclose,...
Clare DeGraaf
May 23, 20164 min read
5 Ways to be a Better Priest
Evangelicals almost never talk about their priesthood. And, I’m not referring to those men in robes and vestments standing in front of...
Clare DeGraaf
May 16, 20164 min read
Serving With a Bad Attitude
I’ve been asked many times if it’s wrong to serve, if our hearts are not really in it. I hope not. Perhaps half the time I’m serving...
Clare DeGraaf
May 9, 20164 min read
Jump-Starting Your Spiritual Life
If you have a spiritually indifferent older child or adult, here’s an idea for Mother’s Day. When I found out I had lymphoma cancer 35...
Clare DeGraaf
May 5, 20163 min read
Building “Redemptive Relationships”
Two of our grandchildren are heading off to college next year. While on vacation a few weeks ago with 23 of our family, I set aside some...
Clare DeGraaf
May 2, 20163 min read
“Bathroom Bills?” – 4 Things You’ll Want to Know to Dialogue Wisely on This Issue
The so-called “Bathroom Bills” passed by a number of cities and states have been big news recently. The state of North Carolina is the...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 25, 20165 min read
Finding a Spiritual Mentor
By far the most difficult part of finding a spiritual mentor is having the courage to ask. Men in particular, fear rejection more than...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 18, 20164 min read
Becoming a Spiritual Mentor
Someone you know right now needs a spiritual mentor. They may not use those words, or even know exactly what they need. But most younger...
Clare DeGraaf
Apr 11, 20164 min read
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