A few months ago, a Christian man sat in my office angry and sad because his wife just told him she was divorcing him. “And my kids don’t respect me either,” he added, implying that his wife had turned the kids against him. “Why is God letting her do this to me?” I’m not sure why I end up with so many guys with bad marriages sitting in my office, decade after decade. I don’t even pretend to be a marriage counselor. But, there’s a common theme that runs through the majority of their stories,...

I’ve sat with men and women, months after the death of a child, spouse or parent and have been asked “Will I ever find closure?” My honest answer is, “Probably not, and I’m not sure you truly want closure.” Closure works well in some areas, like the closing of a real estate transaction. But the term closure does not apply well to the human heart. It might not be possible, or even desirable, to permanently close the heart on a deep relationship ended by death. Are you sure you really want...

I had a friend of a friend ask this question of him recently. He said, "My wife and I grew up in the traditional church. But when we began having children, that just didn't seem to work anymore. So my wife and I began our own family church, where we can teach our own children, worship together as a family and where we can grow together spiritually. It's working for us." So, is a church made up of only one family, really a church? I don't believe it is. However, I love it that they have a...