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I spend half my life in coffee shops having honest conversations about how following Jesus works in real life. So, let’s learn together, grab a cup and join the conversation.
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Were you raised by a legalist?
Many of the men I mentor were raised by legalistic parents or in a legalistic church. While they believe legalism isn’t spiritually...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 29, 20144 min read
Funeral Wisdom: Things you should or should not say at a funeral
At age 65, I’m beginning to spend more time standing in line at funerals or pre-funeral visitations. Over the years, I’ve heard people...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 25, 20144 min read
Dealing with Guilt Over the Death of an Unloving Parent – Part 1
A man I mentored years ago, called me a few months back to tell me that his father had died. I knew that his father, although a public...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 22, 20143 min read
“I’ll never get Caught!” and other lies we tell ourselves
I can’t tell you how many men have sat in my office, crying their eyes out, having been caught having an affair, and shocked to have been...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 15, 20145 min read
It’s Not About the Nail!
This blog is for husbands only. Watch this video, have a laugh, then please keep reading. It’s Not About the Nail Video One of the...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 8, 20143 min read
Are You Sure You Want Your Children to be Extroverts?
The basic premise of the book is that for most of humanity, until the 20th century, we valued a “Culture of Character.” “The ideal self...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 1, 20144 min read
Thinking of Adopting?
As I am writing this blog, my wife Susan is in China. She’s there with our son-in-law and daughter and all four of their children to...
Clare DeGraaf
May 25, 20144 min read
What Happens One Minute After You Die
With all the “I died, went to heaven and back”, books and movies out today, it’s made me aware of just how little the average Christian...
Clare DeGraaf
May 18, 20146 min read
Tell God You’re Sorry, then Live Like You Are
One of the most difficult things to talk about with our children, friends or those we mentor is personal sin – our own struggle with it...
Clare DeGraaf
May 11, 20143 min read
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