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Is Your Friend’s God Yellow?
If you have a family member or friend in some kind of 12 Step Program and they’ve not yet found freedom from their addiction, you may...
Clare DeGraaf
Nov 16, 20152 min read
A Guest Blog: When Your Apology Falls Flat
By Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas In our years of counseling couples and families, we have encountered this challenging scenario many...
Clare DeGraaf
Nov 9, 20154 min read
Why Just Having a Doctrinal Statement For Your Church, May Not Be Enough
When I was a kid, my parents made me memorize the Heidelberg Catechism, 129 questions and answers. Memorize the whole thing! You couldn’t...
Clare DeGraaf
Nov 2, 20153 min read
Who Trains the Elders and Deacons in your Church – Anyone!
The night I was elected elder in my church, I began serving. Within a week I was voting on decisions that I was totally unprepared to...
Clare DeGraaf
Oct 26, 20153 min read
Choosing the Leaders of Your Church by “Casting Lots”
Nearly 20 years ago, I was elected an elder of my church. But, I had mixed feelings. On one hand, I was honored that I was both nominated...
Clare DeGraaf
Oct 19, 20154 min read
Jesus – The Only Way?
Last week, I got a call to meet for coffee with a small group of young pastors and leaders, working with college students at our church....
Clare DeGraaf
Oct 12, 20155 min read
Some of the Most Important Questions Any Parent or Grandparent Can Ask of Themselves
A few months ago, I was meeting with a Christian businessman I really admire. As we began talking about his childhood, I asked him if his...
Clare DeGraaf
Oct 5, 20153 min read
But the Law Says I Have a Right!
A few months ago, I sat with an attorney representing a well off investor, who had a claim against a small struggling businessman. The...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 28, 20154 min read
Civil Disobedience, the Bible and Kim Davis
I’ve been asked a dozen times over the last few weeks, for my opinion on Kim Davis, the Rowan, Kentucky, County Clerk who was jailed a...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 21, 20155 min read
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