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I’m a businessman, elder in one of the more conservative mega churches in Grand Rapids, Michigan and for over 25 years a full time spiritual mentor of men. I love introducing people to Jesus and truth from God’s perspective. I’m also an NPR listener and student of our culture because I want to understand how the world and a younger generation think, so I’m prepared to engage in conversations which are true to the Bible, intellectually honest and gracious.

Following Jesus is the only hope I have of living this life with purpose, energy and expectation. I hope to end my days on earth still meeting young men at Starbucks who have no interest in God, being the patriarch of my family, cheering them on to godliness, making sad people smile and the lonely – laugh, giving the poor hope, pointing wayward men back to their families, teaching the whole counsel of God and keeping myself unstained – God’s reputation and mine intact.

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A Warning From Jesus About a Sin Most Christians Long to Commit
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“Then he told them a story: A rich man had a fertile farm that produced fine crops. He said to himself, ‘What should I do? I don’t have room for all my crops.’  Then he said, ‘I know! I’ll tear down my barns and build bigger ones. Then I’ll have room enough to store all my wheat and other goods.  And I’ll sit back and say to myself, ‘My friend, you have enough stored away for years to come. Now take it easy! Eat, drink, and be merry!’’ But God said to him, ‘You fool! You will die this very night. Then who will get everything you worked for?’ Yes, a person is a fool to store up earthly wealth but not have a rich relationship with God.” Luke 12:16-21

Is retirement a sin? Only the wrong kind of retirement.
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Most of Us Have the Reputation We Deserve
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I once had a conversation with a very successful man, who had a horrible reputation in the business community. He also claimed to be a Christian.

He went to his pastor to ask why he was never nominated to be a deacon. After all, he was good with money. His pastor had the courage to tell him that the reason he hadn’t been nominated was his reputation. He was incredulous!

So, he came to see me, indignant that he was being slandered by people in his church. “Do you think I have a reputation as a tough businessman?,” he asked. And I told him the truth.

“I don’t deserve that reputation,” he said. To which I said, “most of us have the reputation we deserve.”

A good reputation is more valuable than costly perfume. And the day you die is better than the day you are born.” Ecclesiastes 7:1
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The Lie We’d All Like to Believe
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I’m sure someone else is (or will) help them.

There it is. The lie we’d all like to believe.

A few weeks back, I was with two men I had just met. They mentioned they had a third pastor friend who had a fair amount of debt from his seminary education. Both men shared real concern for the burden this placed on the young pastor and his family.

Near the end of the conversation, one of the men made the statement I’ve often heard and have probably said myself, “well, I’m sure someone else is helping them.” Why is it that idea comes so easily to us? Here’s what I think.
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Gender Fluidity
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As a parent or grandparent it would be a serious mistake to dismiss the importance of gender fluidity to your children or grandchildren!

So what is gender fluidity? It is the relatively new idea to the public, to describe the phenomena in some people whose mental sexuality is not fixed, but it can change from “feeling” male or female, from year to year, or even as reported by others, from day to day. They obviously don’t change physically from male to female, but they find themselves mentally and emotionally changing along the sexual spectrum.

Until even five or six years old, most psychologists understood this was a very small segment of the population – transgender and bi-sexual people are two examples of this. However, in the last few years, with the rise of pop culture it’s become cool to be gender fluid. Miley Cyrus, recently said, “I don’t relate to being either a boy or a girl. It has nothing to do with my body parts or who I’m attracted to. It’s literally just how I feel.” Almost every week a new celebrity is coming out as asexual, transgender, bisexual, etc., or as gender fluid.

If you’re just shaking your head in disbelief and think this is just a Hollywood phenomena, ask your high school or college children or grandchildren. I’d be shocked if they don’t know several students who say they are gender fluid.
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