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I spend half my life in coffee shops having honest conversations about how following Jesus works in real life. So, let’s learn together, grab a cup and join the conversation.
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Have You Prepared Your Children or Grandchildren for Your Own Death?
Over the years, I’ve met so many young people who have walked away from God or became angry with him because “he took my mother (or dad)...
Clare DeGraaf
Oct 3, 20163 min read
Is a Single Family Church, Really a Church?
I had a friend of a friend ask this question of him recently. He said, “My wife and I grew up in the traditional church. But when we...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 26, 20163 min read
When Helping Hurts
Nearly all of us have been approached by a friend, family member or a member of our church for “a loan.” Sometimes their need is obvious,...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 19, 20163 min read
Ant Language – Part II
Last week I introduced the term “ant language”. If you accept my premise and explanation it will allow you to identify and faithfully...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 12, 20166 min read
Could Many of Our Theological Differences Simply Be “Ant Language”
“When two denominations, or theologians who love God deeply and both have a high view of scripture, disagree on a doctrinal issue, the...
Clare DeGraaf
Sep 5, 20167 min read
Marriage, Family and God’s Authority Structure
I am often approached by young men thinking of getting married, for counsel. One of the first things I want to find out is if they, and...
Clare DeGraaf
Aug 29, 20166 min read
Eight Important Questions For Finding the Will of God For Your Life
“I’m thinking of doing something different vocationally. I’ve been in a job that’s been OK, but I’m bored and there’s not much room for...
Clare DeGraaf
Aug 22, 20165 min read
What’s God’s Will For My Life?
I was sitting at Starbucks a while back, on a fine fall day with a young man about to graduate from college in the spring. He and I had...
Clare DeGraaf
Aug 15, 20165 min read
“Things” That Tempt Us
Recently, I met with a young husband who has had an affair. He’s confessed it to his wife, asked God’s forgiveness and cut off the...
Clare DeGraaf
Aug 8, 20163 min read
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