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The Myth of “Closure”
I’ve sat with men and women, months after the death of a child, spouse or parent and have been asked “will I ever find closure?” My...
Clare DeGraaf
Jul 11, 20163 min read
A New Kind of Reconciliation With a Former Spouse
Not only are there those risks, but in most cases one or both of the spouses have remarried. “So, Clare even if I wanted to reconcile...
Clare DeGraaf
Jul 4, 20163 min read
What Does it Mean That We Are Created in the “Image of God?”
I went to church all my life, as well as Christian schools, and I swear until I was in my mid 30’s I thought we looked like God. In every...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 27, 20164 min read
What is God Like?
I grew up attending a Christian school where we learned the attributes of God – what God was like. However, 75% of the young Christian...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 20, 20165 min read
A Father’s day Note
Written by Tom Cole – 2016 Father’s Day is this Sunday. I have found that when I ask a man about his father that it usually stirs a...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 16, 20163 min read
Does God Require us to Understand How He Calls People to Faith?
Every theologian throughout history has attempted to explain God’s decision-making process in granting salvation and man’s responsibility...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 13, 20165 min read
5 of the Most Dangerous Lies Some Christians Believe
Last week, my blog was entitled, “The Lies We Tell Ourselves, and Why We So Desperately Want to Believe Them.” All of the lies we tell...
Clare DeGraaf
Jun 6, 20164 min read
The Lies We Tell Ourselves, and Why We So Desperately Want to Believe Them
We all tell ourselves lies, even Christians. It’s not that we consciously play some mental game to talk ourselves into believing a lie....
Clare DeGraaf
May 30, 20163 min read
Is Cohabitation a Sin?
I spend a good deal of my time spiritually mentoring 20-30 year old men, often single. And I’m still shocked when they freely disclose,...
Clare DeGraaf
May 23, 20164 min read
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