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I Don’t Care What People Think of Me!
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A few years ago, I sat with a “successful” middle-age Christian man, married with three kids, who did not have a good reputation in our business community. After several people came to me about their personal dealings with him, I called him and asked him to meet with me. He attended our church and as his elder, I wanted to find out why these people were saying these things about him.

Of course, he dismissed their characterization of him as unhappy investors with completely unfounded reasons for not trusting him. He ended his defense with “I don’t care what people think of me!” as if his opinion settled it.

“I don’t think you really believe that. And as a follower of Jesus you have no choice but to care.”

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Our Heroes, Often Become our Children’s Heroes
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Over the decades, I’ve noticed this to be generally true; If a person’s parents were people their children admired, when they grew up they generally mirrored the values, virtues and spirituality their parents held. “Like father – like son.”

The old adage is true, “Christianity is more caught than taught.” That idea used to be a comfort to me. Now it scares me.

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What Is Marriage?
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A question I get all the time as the chairman and CEO of The Center for Faith, Sexuality and Gender, is “Where in the Bible does it say two people of the same sex can’t get married?” My answer often surprises them.

Marriage is a legal option, but not a biblical one. The fundamental question that needs to be answered is this, “What is marriage, from God’s perspective?”

My co-worker, Dr. Preston Sprinkle the president of The Center, wrote this wonderful blog, answering that very question.

When Christians dialogue or debate the ethics of same-sex relationships, they typically start by talking about the so-called “prohibition passages” like Leviticus 18:22 or Romans 1:26-27. The discussion usually focuses on whether these passages apply to modern day, consensual, adult marriages. Or some people argue that the biblical writers didn’t know about sexual orientation—that some people are born gay, but the biblical writers didn’t know this and that’s why they prohibited same-sex sexual relations. If the biblical writers knew about orientation, they’d have no problem with two adults of the same sex getting married.

These are important discussions to have and all the evidence needs to be weighed and considered. But I suggest that questions surrounding the prohibition passages or sexual orientation shouldn’t be the first or main questions asked. Instead of asking, did Paul prohibit same-sex marriage, we need to ask the ultimate question: What is marriage?

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