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How to Kill Your Self
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There have been times I’ve been kind or generous, not out of genuine love, but simply because I value my reputation for being kind and generous – pride.

There – I said it out loud! And, my guess is that you too truly enjoy serving others, but like me, occasionally, secretly hope to be noticed or thanked for it. So here’s the question; was our real motive, love for others, or love of ourselves?

I have a friend who runs a huge enterprise, but is one of the most kind and considerate people I know. He wrestles with this issue all the time. “Clare, I love to serve people. I truly do. But, there’s a dark side of me that wonders if I love to serve, primarily because I enjoy being admired for serving. Is that wrong?”

I’ve given him this advice; Pride is an occupational hazard for gifted servants. So, how do we kill our self, without serving less?

If you too are a gifted servant who struggles with this problem – narcissistic obedience, read on. I think you’ll identify with this true story I tell in the new, revised edition of The 10-Second Rule book which illustrates this very point. (more…)

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