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The Confession of a Grace Abuser
Posted by Clare

Our daughter, Megan, has a blog entitled: This is me Being Real.  Well, this is me being real.

Here’s what goes on in my head and heart whenever I’m tempted to sin; I’m not talking about the automatic, unkind word that springs from my lips, or a lustful thought that came out of nowhere but lingers too long, sin.  I’m talking about me contemplating a sin, even for a few minutes that I know full well is wrong (a felony in my hierarchy of sins).  Why is it a spiritually mature man, would ever choose to sin?

Because I know there’s always GRACE.  And, so do you.

And there have been times I’ve used my “grace card” like it was some kind of unlimited hall pass that allows me to go anywhere or do anything without fear of the consequences.

If you and I are at all serious about personal holiness, we’ll need to look under the hood of our hearts and try to figure out why we do what we do and then have the wisdom and courage to do something about it.  I think two of the most spiritually crippling words for followers of Jesus is good enough.

So, let’s talk about grace abuse and why we do it.

In The 10 Second Rule I warn about the “voices” we hear from outside of ourselves, like Satan and from the world, constantly tempting us to ignore God’s will and enticing us to live for our own personal pleasure.

But, the “other voice” I hear most often isn’t Satan’s or the world’s. It’s my own​—​it’s me resisting Jesus’ full claim on my life as Lord. I’ve told him thousands of times he’s my Lord. I meant it, and I still mean it! But there’s an independent, sinful part of me that wants to reserve a part of my life for me. I want to be able to call at least part of my life mine.

The Apostle Paul said it well:

The moment I decide to do good, sin is there to trip me up. I truly delight in God’s commands, but it’s pretty obvious that not all of me joins in that delight. Parts of me covertly rebel, and just when I least expect it, they take charge. (Romans 7:21-23, MSG)

So, let’s give it a name​—​call it partial surrender. And I’ve noticed that others who believe themselves to be Christians apparently have bought into the partial surrender idea, too​—​they’re like hanging on to their “mines” also. And there have been times I’ve begun believing the lie I so desperately wanted to believe​—​that because of grace, Jesus is fine with partial surrender.

Is he?

Is grace​—​the amazing truth that God through Christ Jesus has forgiven all our sins​—​really a contributing factor to my spiritual mediocrity?

Only when I abuse it.

Grace abuse is holding God to his word, while using it as an excuse to break ours.

Most of us wouldn’t think of ourselves as actually doing that​—​but isn’t that what we’re really doing?  I’ve often wondered if Jesus ever just slowly rubs his thumbs over the scars on his hands in disbelief that we would treat so casually his great love and terrible sacrifice. Why is it that our gratitude seems to have a half-life, once Easter has passed?

Christ’s sacrifice was meant to pay the price for that which I cannot do for myself—perfection and absolute surrender. Jesus expects all of us who claim his name to full-heartedly give our all to loving God, doing his will, and serving his kingdom on earth. When that’s not enough—and it isn’t, of course—yes, in the end he remains faithful, even if we aren’t.

That’s the real purpose of grace—to do what I can’t. It should never be my excuse for what I won’t.

So the primary reason some of us aren’t making more progress living more godly lives is that we’ve made peace with our conscience. We’ve come to what we think is a reasonable balance between sin and surrender​—​a compromise we can live with, and one we think God is okay with too. We tell ourselves that Jesus died not just for our past sins but for our present and future ones as well. We’ve been forgiven! And that’s a powerful incentive to settle for partial surrender. For good enough. Anything more just feels unnecessary, too difficult, or costly.

So most of us obey that first voice, the good voice​—​what I believe is the Holy Spirit’s voice​—​often enough to assuage our guilt and enable us to feel reasonably good about ourselves. And maybe you’re doing about as well as most Christians you know. But deep down, you know that your Savior and Lord deserves so much more and wants so much more for you!

He who pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor. (Proverbs 21:21)

So, what do we do about this condition?

Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.” For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. (Luke 9:23-24)

But what does “take up his cross daily” actually mean?  Hold on because what I’m about to tell you is going to sound counter to what I said just a few paragraphs back.

I gave up on absolute surrender years ago!

I gave it up because I realized it was an impossible goal. There was no way I could ever hope to surrender my will to God’s absolutely, every day, for the rest of my life. God knows it. And every other Christian on earth does too, whether they admit it or not. None of us wants to chase a dream or goal we know can’t be attained.

So while absolute surrender is impossible, doing the next thing I’m reasonably certain Jesus wants me to do isn’t! I can do that! And so can you. So we can tear up that negotiated settlement with our consciences. Our excuses are over.

Therein lies the power of the Rule to transform our lives.

Talk about counterintuitive! Remember when Jesus said in Matthew 6 not to worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself? When you and I give up and simply follow Jesus, daily and hourly and in the next ten seconds, doing what he asks us to do, (including resisting sin) we actually move closer to that previously elusive ideal of absolute surrender than we ever dreamed possible! That’s exactly what dying (surrendering) daily means.

─ Quoted from The 10 Second Rule, chapter two

One Final Thought

A number of years ago, I began visualizing a grace card.  Mine is the size of a debit card.  In fact, I think of it as a spiritual debt card.  It has an unlimited credit balance, because Jesus made a lifetime deposit for more grace than I deserve, or I’ll ever need.

When I’m tempted to sin, I’ll often imagine that card in my hand, paid in full by the blood of Jesus himself.  And if I’m lucid enough to listen to the Holy Spirit at that moment, I visualize myself quickly putting that card back in my wallet, unwilling to spend one cent of the blood price.  Usually the temptation passes quickly and then there’s that sweet satisfaction, as I imagine Jesus and me walking out of the temptation shop with my guilt bag empty.

My question to you is:  If you are a grace abuser, what’s your plan to stop?

An apology – sort of:  My blogs are coming out twice as long as I had hoped, and the blogging, blogs advise.  I’d like to shorten them, but when I’ve tried, they felt like Christianity lite.  So I’ll try, but no promises.  My advice; just get a fresh of coffee every Monday before you go to my blog. Thanks!

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Comments (7)
  1. Andy Atwood said...

    Willpower. After reading Clare’s post this morning, the very next email I opened informed me of “14 Facts About Decision Making and Willpower.” Cooperating with and managing around the natural way that things work makes it… well, manageable. It always comes down to choice. WWJD?

  2. Andy Atwood said...

    HEY…. here is a link to the blog post I mentioned

  3. Darlene said...

    H Clare,

    Please don’t apologize for the length of your blog! It’s great every time you post. Today’s really grabbed me because last night I was watching a pilot program just to check it out.. As I was part way through it, the prompting kept coming that I should just turn it off since some of the ‘implied’ content wasn’t very good. But my grace abuse was in full force and my ‘thoughts’ said, “Just finish watching it; you know you’re not ever going to watch this again anyway.” (I truly don’t watch TV much at all.).
    Then I reread your blog today. Furthermore, as I’m studying Mark, I came to 7:17, which stabbed me in the heart. Jesus, talking to the Pharisees said “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions.” While the context is different, the question the Lord brought to me was, “In what ways do I set aside the commands of God in order to do what I want?” OUCH!
    The Lord is answering my prayer to make me hate sin as much as He does because the thought of abusing His grace this way hurt my heart deeply! And I’m sure it hurt Him far more deeply than it did me.
    Thanks for the ‘hard stuff.’ God is using it, you can be sure of that–regardless of how long your blogs are. Keep up the great work!

    • Clare said...

      If you were convicted with this post, you’ll feel better next Monday as I’ll be talking about my sin. I know you probably thought I don’t sin much, but to my shame I’m just more cleaver at it until the Holy Spirit yanks the fig leaf of hypocrisy off . ” Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.” James 3:1

  4. Darlene said...

    Oops…that’s Mark 7:9

  5. Jennie said...

    Don’t shorten your message, keep up the good work! My only problem is having to wait a week in between your posts! 🙂

  6. Darlene said...

    Amen to Jennie’s post!!

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